Time, sometimes the time just slips away
And your left with yesterday
Left with the memories
Dear John, isn’t a love story, but a story of love. As the title have revealed, it is not a story with romance. Rather, it impressed me by a heartbreaking tale of a man who lost his Savannah, and a grieving tale of a son who lost his father. I think it could explain the reason why my mother recommended me to read it. To be honest, I don’t prefer love stories at all, nor anything related to couple’s romance since there have been so many broken marriages and separating stories around us. I cannot help but abandon my beliefs in tales with happy ever after endings. Then I chose this book, for I am curious about what makes couples break up. Surprisingly, I found it tells more than couple’s love, but also the parent-child relationship.
John was a soldier. This man restored his relationship with his father when he realized that his father’s incapability of sociality came from asperger’s disease. And the restoration was all because of John’s beloved girl, Savannah who had been working hard on rebuilding the father and son's relationship. However, the distance between the couples was far more than an ocean when John served in the armed forces in Germany. Savannah wrote a Dear John letter to him. And meanwhile John was losing his father for the aggravating condition of the disease. At the end, John finished his father’s funeral, and visited Savannah again. He sold out all the inheritances for money, and secretly donated it for Savannah’s husband to have a biochemotherapy. He saved Savannah’s husband. He wanted her to be happy.
I was quiet shocked at John’s decision to donate the money. It would be hard for me, and I believe for many others as well, to do that for the so called betrayed one. That’s true love maybe. The man wanted his girl to be happy. So he did whatever he could, even offering all the things he had. And at the end of the story, although John knew they loved each other still, he refused to meet her anymore, for he knew that breaking Savannah's marriage would not make her as happy as the way once John and her were together. What’s out of my expectation is that John did not regret those days they were together, and the way he loved her. Instead, he treasured those memories. He left the happiness as the way it was. No regret. No hatred. Only true love remained.
Besides, I am touched by the way John got along with his father, and the way his father loved him. That reminds me of my father and me. Although we have not so many things to talk and to share when I am with him, he always stood by me when I was in need, and he was one of the three men who care me most in this world. My tears rolled down when I read that John got inheritances from his silent father without seeing him the last time.
Before I finish this blogger article, I want to share a song that I found it echoing the story. It’s “Please Remember” by Leam Rimes. It kept roaring in my mind when I was reading this book. It says, please remember the time we shared, the smiles we had, and those moments with joys. Although I haven’t got the chance to experience the heart breaking moment, I was touched by the beauty of love in the story as well as the melody.
I won't forget so don't forget
The memories we made
Please remember, please remember
